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Aug 19Liked by fuckgirl

This! If he talks shit about his ex, don’t walk, run! Also, we have to come to our senses, we are not ‘better’ than any other woman, not ‘better’ than his ex. Let’s not fall for these ‘compliments’ anymore! It’s bs.

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For a while now I've been thinking how powerful it would be if there was something like a LinkedIn meets Yelp for romantic relationships. Where you could leave reviews about what's on the "menu", whether he was respectful, if you'd recommend someone date this man, and when to stay all the fuck away. It seriously comes to mind regularly. It feels a bit like a Black Mirror episode in real life.

I appreciate this post and how you would be open to a phone call from future women in an ex's life. Never considered this before and appreciate the sentiment!

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🔥🔥🔥 we will all unite. It’s already happening

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Sep 1Liked by fuckgirl

It hurts to read this but more because I feel so seen and spoken to with this text.

So many men in my life live in their victim mentality... "Its everyone else, never them". I wish I knew why they stay in this mindset. Why they keep on doing the same sh*t over and over again. Hurting so many women and in the end... it was never their fault. The women just never understood them enough.... Yeah right....

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And it helps so much that you feel seen by it. Love to you!

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♥️

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I love this piece SO fucking much. I was in a horribly manipulative relationship last year that ended with me realizing he had been using "non-monogamy" to sleep with multiple people in our shared workplace, and I'm now best friends with one of those women. We helped each other through the breakup pain and wished we'd connected sooner to alleviate the trauma. If a man pits women against each other, even subtly, that is a blood red flag. Trust his ex. Trust women!

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I am sooo happy to read your comment, you are free and found a new friend, best outcome of a terrible situation. And, funny enough, my first novel is also going to be about that exact topic, including the whole toxic non monogamy „debate“.

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