OK, I'm going to have to go to the other side on this one (and please don't hate me). It takes two people to make or break a relationship.
You basically only mentioned Ben Afleck once in the essay and that was just to say bad man, he's been bad before. And that wasn't fair or accurate. Yes Afleck has an alcoholism problem that has required stints in rehab facilities. No one is arguing that (by the way, there were no reports of any sort of relapse during Bennifer II). He's also an accomplished actor, Screenwriter and director with two Academy Awards. He's just as accomplished as Ms Lopez. Maybe even more so since he now is also co-owner of possibly the most innovative film studio in the industry, revolutionizing pay structure from technical line workers up to above the line talent — and they're putting out great films.
His relationship with his first ex-wife is excellent and, since he cast and directed JLo after their split, they seem to be pretty good, too.
But the real point here goes directly to the thesis of your piece and that's the damage that living in public on social media can do to a relationship. It was impossible to avoid, even for someone like me who avoids the bigger social media channel's as much as possible. One thing I did notice though is that in every clip, every photo op I saw of them, she looked radient — and he looked miserable.
She lives on social media and he, most definitely, doesn't. I don't have any idea of the inner workings of their relationship or its fracture but I'm willing to bet that his discomfort with the way she courts followers on the socials had to be a source of tension.
While she was “living her best life” with celebrity birthday parties and all, he was avoiding the press and working on planning projects at his film studio. One of them being the film he cast J Lo in.
What I'm trying to say here is that they're both pretty good people as far as we can know who happened to be tragically a bad fit for each other. Neither of them was at fault or the bad guy.
Yeah I think my point wasn’t if there are good people, it was more about her braggy social media aesthetics which were fake as hell. jlo is in critique for multiple things she‘s said and done - just to mention the P Diddy scandal and her not actually being a broke girl from the Bronx. So yeah I’m def no JLo fan whatsoever.
Thanks for your in depth comment tho
Didn’t know some things about ben, but but but wouldn’t count on the fact that the other Jen is always and in every situation a big fan of his. They have 3 kids, so she kinda has to stay in his life. Don’t even wanna know the whole damage his and his alcoholism have done to her and the fam
I have no doubt that his alcoholism did damage to his family. But he seems to always have tried to be a good father to his kids an the best co-parenting partner to Jennifer Garner he could be.
But alcoholism is a disease and he's a victim of it as well. It's wake is almost always tragic to some extent but he seems to have fought it hard — and to be in a pretty good place in terms of his alcoholism these days.
To me, one of the biggest differences in terms of character between the two of them is that she just has this over polished sheen to her, not unlikable but just kind of unbelievable. He on the other hand, really doesn't seem to hide anything, for good or ill (even his atrocious taste in coffee).
They just didn't seem to fit.
BTW, I read quite a few of your pieces and I really enjoy them and your perspective. Thanks you!
I think poor J-lo is still Jenny from the Block. Imo she is one of the most successful female artists in history. I don’t rate BA at all in anything he does- he is a CRAP actor. I have Pearl Harbour- that’s it. I have ALL of her films. It is so sad to see her keep falling into the narrative of needing a man when she really, really doesn’t. Especially not THAT one.
Food for thought: is there actual power in her ability to align her “brand” with someone and then say “this isn’t working for me, time to move on.” Personally I see it as a huge flex.
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OK, I'm going to have to go to the other side on this one (and please don't hate me). It takes two people to make or break a relationship.
You basically only mentioned Ben Afleck once in the essay and that was just to say bad man, he's been bad before. And that wasn't fair or accurate. Yes Afleck has an alcoholism problem that has required stints in rehab facilities. No one is arguing that (by the way, there were no reports of any sort of relapse during Bennifer II). He's also an accomplished actor, Screenwriter and director with two Academy Awards. He's just as accomplished as Ms Lopez. Maybe even more so since he now is also co-owner of possibly the most innovative film studio in the industry, revolutionizing pay structure from technical line workers up to above the line talent — and they're putting out great films.
His relationship with his first ex-wife is excellent and, since he cast and directed JLo after their split, they seem to be pretty good, too.
But the real point here goes directly to the thesis of your piece and that's the damage that living in public on social media can do to a relationship. It was impossible to avoid, even for someone like me who avoids the bigger social media channel's as much as possible. One thing I did notice though is that in every clip, every photo op I saw of them, she looked radient — and he looked miserable.
She lives on social media and he, most definitely, doesn't. I don't have any idea of the inner workings of their relationship or its fracture but I'm willing to bet that his discomfort with the way she courts followers on the socials had to be a source of tension.
While she was “living her best life” with celebrity birthday parties and all, he was avoiding the press and working on planning projects at his film studio. One of them being the film he cast J Lo in.
What I'm trying to say here is that they're both pretty good people as far as we can know who happened to be tragically a bad fit for each other. Neither of them was at fault or the bad guy.
Yeah I think my point wasn’t if there are good people, it was more about her braggy social media aesthetics which were fake as hell. jlo is in critique for multiple things she‘s said and done - just to mention the P Diddy scandal and her not actually being a broke girl from the Bronx. So yeah I’m def no JLo fan whatsoever.
Thanks for your in depth comment tho
Didn’t know some things about ben, but but but wouldn’t count on the fact that the other Jen is always and in every situation a big fan of his. They have 3 kids, so she kinda has to stay in his life. Don’t even wanna know the whole damage his and his alcoholism have done to her and the fam
I have no doubt that his alcoholism did damage to his family. But he seems to always have tried to be a good father to his kids an the best co-parenting partner to Jennifer Garner he could be.
But alcoholism is a disease and he's a victim of it as well. It's wake is almost always tragic to some extent but he seems to have fought it hard — and to be in a pretty good place in terms of his alcoholism these days.
To me, one of the biggest differences in terms of character between the two of them is that she just has this over polished sheen to her, not unlikable but just kind of unbelievable. He on the other hand, really doesn't seem to hide anything, for good or ill (even his atrocious taste in coffee).
They just didn't seem to fit.
BTW, I read quite a few of your pieces and I really enjoy them and your perspective. Thanks you!
Awww thank you! I appreciate your support
I think poor J-lo is still Jenny from the Block. Imo she is one of the most successful female artists in history. I don’t rate BA at all in anything he does- he is a CRAP actor. I have Pearl Harbour- that’s it. I have ALL of her films. It is so sad to see her keep falling into the narrative of needing a man when she really, really doesn’t. Especially not THAT one.
Thank you for this one.
Ummmmm even he hates Pearl Harbor. See Argo and you're very likely to change your tune.
I own Pearl Harbour but I’ve seen multiple films of his including Argo. He just doesn’t hit the mark for me 🤷♀️
Why would anyone actually spend money to own Pearl Harbor?
Second hand dvd sales when the stores were closing. I hadn’t seen it in years and wanted to give it another chance 🤷♀️
OK, you're forgiven!
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Thanks
Ugh, you hit the nail on the head with this. 🙌🏼
Thank you :)
Food for thought: is there actual power in her ability to align her “brand” with someone and then say “this isn’t working for me, time to move on.” Personally I see it as a huge flex.
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Messerscharf as usual
exactly!