Advice Column #2: How Should I Deal with Friends Who Ignore Me After Having Kids?
"You deserve the same level of care, attention, and support that anyone else gets from their friends. If you’re left out of their lives, it’s not your fault."
Dear fuckgirl,
I’m in my mid-thirties, and lately, I’ve been feeling a growing distance between myself and some of my friends. Many of them have children now, and I’ve never wanted kids. While I still care about them and enjoy our time together, I’m noticing how different our lives have become. They talk about their kids and the changes in their lives, and I just can’t relate.
What’s been really bothering me, though, is how they seem to prioritize their family life over our friendship. Recently, they made plans for holidays, but didn’t even consider asking me to join them. Instead, they chose to go with other friends who also have children. It’s starting to feel like I’m being left out, and our bond doesn’t hold the same weight in their lives anymore.
I’ve been questioning if it’s wrong for me to focus on friendships with people who don’t have kids. Is it unfair to seek connections with people who share similar life choices, or should I keep trying to make things work with my friends who are parents, even though it feels like they’re drifting away? I don’t want to seem judgmental, but I’m struggling with the growing divide.
At this point, I’m wondering: Should I just stop trying to include them in my life and focus on living my own happy, childfree existence? Should I just move on and stop making an effort, as they’ve seemingly done with me?
Looking forward to your thoughts!
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